if i'd known what problems it would have coursed i think i would have not have asked the house mate to move in..... i have lived in my house for 46 years i was born only 5 feet away from where i'm typing this lol i had the other half changing my life my house ect then he and the house mate stared planning chages and i think i couldn't cope with it i'm a bit incure about things esp if things change too fast and i had (i'm not saying didn't make the siutations worse) just come out of two bad ending relationships (5 years and 4 years) so i was a little head fucked me an the other half would have rows the first i rember was a realy stupid one as we came back from a night out he said he got the muchies (when hes at his momes then they have a freazer draw full of chocolate) so as we were driving home he said he could do with a load of choc to eat i said he shouldn't eat so much (he wieghs in at 18 stone) cos i was worried about his wieght he said that he would eat what ever he likes and that i couldn't stop him..thats the red rag to the bull lol so we rowd over something childish and stupid..we did make it up later though our rows from my side were more bickerin like an old couple he would have his moods when he came home from work and i would pick up on that and vicea versor it would happen more when the house mate was in cos i feel now that when they were together that they were closer than me an him they would go out in leeds and have a good time then, i supose wind me up about how borin i was..i'm fairly quiet and a little shy i'm more of a people watcher than a joiner in i was a doorman for nearly 9 years which i did to bring my self out i enjoyed my time doin the job ..i know that thinking about it and looking back we were doing too much too soon but at the time we were bein carried along by it...i did say to him when i was having one of my realy introverted days and feeling a little green about what they were doin that maybe the best relationship was an open one with him and the house mate (they liked each other but deinatly not for sex) the other half would always say that was stupid, which it was so our relationship sometimes bumped along sometimes realy close touching kissing laying together on the sofa cuddling or just sittin quietly or even in the pub with mates having a laff or rowing or having moods over nothing and not talking.......